All posts for the month March, 2013

Why Being Attracted to the Same Sex Is Perfectly Natural

Published March 27, 2013 by asickandtwistedperspective

I know people are always going on about how G-d said homosexuality is wrong because it appears so in the Bible, and the 10 commandments.  However ,many people misinterpretor just plain misuse the exactly 9 mentions of homosexuality in the Bible, old and new testament.

In the book Leviticus, in the old  testament. it states that you should “not lay with mankind as with women kind. That is detestable.” Now as with so many verses in the bible this is open to interpretation; it could just mean “listen man, you are going to be having a WHOOOLLEEE different kind of sex with Dan than you are having with Beth.”  Or some scholars have come to believe it means that it’s speaking of abusive sex.  Whatever the meaning it does NOT say hook up with your best bro and you’re going to hell.

In Leviticus 20:13 it says “‘If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.”  Now because those of us brought up in the Jewish or Christian religions were taught to believe homosexuality is a sin we automatically read this to mean homosexuality is a sin.  However if you really read it it does not say that, it could be part of the  Holiness Code, or again it could just be speaking to the type of sex people are having. 

The story of Sodom and Gomorrah is more interesting in my opinion, and I’ve always enjoyed it. Traditionally this story had been widely and misleadingly taught as being about a town full of depraved sex addicts who wanted to rape the angles who delivered Lot. HOWEVER if any of these people who are always quoting scripture bothered to read the bible they would know what it ACTUALLY says. Ezekiel specifies that the city was destroyed because of its arrogance, apathy towards the poor, and committing “abomination.” The word used in Leviticus 18 and 20 in reference to homosexual acts, as well as in other parts of the Bible to refer to various forms of idolatry and other undesirable actions. The Talmud also interprets the towns sin as a lack of charity NOT homosexuality. 

There is also in the bible, the stories of  David and Jonathan in the Books of Samuel which is the story of two men who were “beloved in life, and in death were not parted.”  In fact upon Johnathan’s death David says; “Your love to me was more wonderful Than the love of women.” But of course Christians and Jews seem to overlook this as a story of romantic  love.

Now if you are not a believer ( I believe in G-d not the Bible stories) there is the evidence of the 1,500 different species of animals that have occurrences of homosexual and/or bisexual relationships from mammals to worms. Homosexual in this context refers to mating games, actual intercourse, and genital stimulation.

As we humans are just evolved animals obviously certain individuals tendencies to be attracted to the same sex is not unnatural but in reality pretty common. So common in fact that it should be boring by this point, because really who the hell cares who is sleeping with whom as long as you aren’t sleeping with someone with a partner. In that case I’ll bet a few people will be interested in who you’re sleeping with.

In conclusion my fellow LGBTQA people we are as natural as anyone else who chooses to be with someone of the opposite sex. We are important to society, we are a strong, beautiful community of weirdos, artists, professionals, mothers, fathers, husbands, wives, children, brothers, sisters, and most importantly PEOPLE. So next time some narrow minded hateful douche spouts bible verses at you, or tells you you are unnatural know that WE occur everywhere, in almost every species and if these people believe that G-d created everything than obviously G-d created ALL of us.



Mixed Feelings?

Published March 1, 2013 by asickandtwistedperspective

Before this afternoon I hadn’t spoken to my father in a few months. I suspect it’s because I’ve stopped bothering to hide my sexual orientation from anyone on twitter and facebook.  I mean yes it’s my fault I’ve hidden it from him for this long, but in my defence he’s a very religious Jewish man.  He would tell me it’s a phase or quote scripture at me.  The one time I did try to tell him, he started yelling about Rachel Maddow and G-d expelling sodomites (all this in the middle of a kosher Chinese food restaurant) ….it just didn’t seem to be the right time

So yes I chickened out, I admit it.  However he has made an extraordinary effort to avoid speaking to me on the phone, except he calls me when he knows I can’t answer, and I of course do the same thing, so we’ve been playing phone tag for months. 

Whatever, I would allow him time, and to be honest I’m OK with not talking to him, seeing as how he just got remarried and I seem to regress to a child with anger problems at the mention of his new wife.  However yesterday he TEXTED me to tell me my grandmother was dead.

Now before you afford me more sympathy than I deserve I have to admit I didn’t know the woman well, in fact I have only seen her once since I was 6.  She was not a pleasant woman, in fact I despised her. However I feel I should have been told this over the phone not in a frackin text!

But this is not really the point of this post.  The point is that now I don’t know how to feel about, Elka’s (my dead grandmother) death.  I obviously don’t miss her, but when I read the text I cried a little. Maybe the loss of possibility, maybe I felt sad for my father?  I am not really sure how to sift through the jumble going on right now.

I once heard a story about a man who loved his mother and hated his father.  His father was an abusive alcoholic and his mother was his protector.  When his mother died he coudn’t cry, not one tear, but when his father died he balled like a baby.  Not because he loved him, but because there was a loss of the person he hated most, and he didn’t know how to replace that feeling.  Maybe my feelings about Elka are similar.  I did blame her for many things, I held a lot of anger for her, maybe what I’m really upset about is that I will never get the chance to tell her that I thought she was to blame for so many things in my life?

In the end it doesn’t really matter though.  The fact is that she’s dead eliminates all possibility of telling her I hated her and blamed her for things that happened, or the possibility of altering our relationship.  Now all I am left with is the memory of the mean scary woman I remember from when I was 6, and the old frail woman I met 21 years later who’s last words to me were “I am only here because your father wanted me to see you.”